Sometimes people go through things that we cannot even begin to explain.
Things that are extremely painful.
Things that are extremely difficult.
- Job loss.
- Unexpected sickness.
And naturally, we want to say things that help bring people peace and comfort, so we say things like, “God will never give you more than you can handle.”
Yes He will.
God WILL give you more than you can handle.
So can we stop saying that He won’t?
I know what you are thinking.
“Doesn’t the Bible say that God won’t?”
No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it. 1 Corinthians 10:13
We can choose to say no to temptation, but we cannot always choose to say no to suffering.
We should stop misquoting this passage because when we do, it’s bad theology that makes people feel guilty for hurting.
So what do we do when we know someone is going through a painful season? What do we do when someone feels like the bottom has fallen out and their world is falling apart?
I believe we need to look at how Job’s friends initially reacted to his suffering:
Be With Them
When Job’s three friends, Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite and Zophar the Naamathite, heard about all the troubles that had come upon him, they set out from their homes and met together by agreement to go and sympathize with him and comfort him. Job 2:11
Growing up, my parents made sure that at least one of them were always at one of my baseball games.
Because, even though they weren’t on the field swinging the bat or making the catch for me, their presence brought great comfort to me.
It made me feel like I wasn’t alone out there.
Our presence makes a difference.
Why should we become broken hearted?
Because if we are not emotionally affected by what’s going on in someone else’s life, we’ll never stick with them through the pain.
We’ll jet as soon as it becomes difficult.
As difficult as it may be, we need to allow ourselves to empathize with them so that we can continue to be there for them.
Resist The Urge To Give Christiany Advise
It’s human nature to look for and to give answers.
And because of this, we sometimes say things for the sake of saying things to fill the silence.
Things like, “God will never give you more than you can handle.”
Stop trying to fill the silence because you’re uncomfortable.
The best thing we can do when someone is going through a difficult time is to say nothing, be with them, become broken hearted, and to simply love them.
So can we stop saying, “God will never give you more than you can handle.” because He most certainly will.