Face it, we’ve all been hurt by someone at some point in time or another. And if you haven’t ever been hurt by someone, you are either the most blessed person ever, or you are living in a bubble.
Hurt comes in many different forms: a harsh word spoken to you or to your spouse, an intentional avoidance, a piercing glance, or, even a passive aggressive Facebook post.
But how do we live this out?
How do we love someone who’s deeply hurt us to so deeply that all we want to do is curl up on our couch and cry?
We pray for the person who’s hurt us.
Now, I should specify that if we pray something like, “God, smite my enemy!’ then we’re missing the point of praying completely.
We should pray that God pours our His grace on the person who’s hurt us.
We should pray that God helps us to forgive the person who’s hurt us.
We should pray that God draws the person who’s hurt you closer to Him.
What I’ve found while praying for someone who’s hurt me or my family, is that God may or may not change the heart of the person I’m praying for, but He most certainly changes my heart, filling it with love, grace, and mercy.
And honestly, love, grace, and mercy are what we desperately need our hearts to be filled with so that we can love someone who’s hurt us.
We need to remember that we’re not perfect.
Sure, it’s easy to be upset about how someone has hurt us, but what about the times we’ve hurt someone else?
As much as I don’t want to admit it, I’m positive that I’ve hurt others. In fact, last week I had a discussion with someone on the phone that I had hurt unintentionally. And they extended love, grace, and mercy when I really didn’t deserve it.
Isn’t that what Jesus does?
Extend love, grace, and mercy when we least expect it and least deserve it?
When we realize that we’re not perfect and that we’ve done things that have hurt others as well, it helps us move past the hurt towards forgiveness and love.
Repeat the aforementioned steps.
Loving others, especially those who’ve hurt us, is a very intentional process, because, honestly, it’s not easy to love someone who’s hurt us, in fact, sometimes it’s hard enough to simply like some people.
But we’re called to love, to love lavishly.
And so, we should find ourselves continually going back to God, in prayer, asking Him to help us love and forgive the person that’s hurt us, as well as asking Him to help us remember that we’re not perfect.
And hopefully, after a while, God will begin to heal our hearts, enabling us to love the way we’re called to.